The Sweet Nothings Game
Have you fallen for The Sweet Nothings Game?
Why does the Sweet Nothings Game exist?
How does the Sweet Nothings Game continue to stay alive?
It's because of how the (Sweet Nothings Game) plays off of a young lady and a woman's needs, wants, desires, insecurities, and trauma, which gets her to ignore how time is her best friend before she gives too much of herself away, without knowing what breed of man she is dealing with.
So, she opens up her legs, mouth, and ears too fast because of all the lies of future faking that she is listening to, from men who love to play the sweet nothings game!
We all have needs, wants, and desires, that's just part of the human experience on this earth but what gets us, Ladies, in a lot of trouble with unnecessary future pain and trauma is when our desires are surrounded around unhealthy pride and ego, which then helps you to fall prey to the Sweet Nothing's Game again and again until all your pain, unfortunately, has to teach you that your way is not working for you!
Predators of all kinds prey on young ladies and women's needs, desires, vulnerabilities, trauma, and rebellion that are submerged within a woman's unhealthy pride and ego and unhealthy pride and ego come from unhealthy, low self-esteem and love for oneself.
This then leads to the need to inflate your worth and value to feel good about yourself. Which then makes it easier to believe the sweet nothings game, that the snake whisperer, whispers in your ears, all the things that you need to hear but secretly really wished that you believed about yourself. The Ex game that he plays with you by attempting to make you believe that you are a better woman than she was, doesn't help you either.
He use to tell them the same thing to get them to open up their ears, legs, and heart too.
Ladies, we have to stop thinking that we are so special.
Yes, I know that that statement might have triggered you but please keep reading. We are special and unique to Jesus and others but not to players, con-artists, narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths, molesters, rapists, abusers, etc.
We are not special to these types of unhealthy-minded, toxic, abusive men, we are simply just prey to them.
So, we Ladies need to stop walking around with this superior, I'm better than her mindset that unhealthy-minded men use to their advantage to be able to manipulate and control your mind and thoughts better.
Yes, we all are special and unique but we are not better than no one and no one is better than us, there is a difference. Not allowing yourself or anyone else to convince you that you are better than her is a healthy
self-boundary that will help protect you from falling prey to these types of game-playing men.
A healthy-minded woman has needs and vulnerabilities also but it's centered around healthy pride and ego. So, the healthy-minded woman says instead…
I'm not better than her. If he will do it to her, he will do it to me and I'm not playing the game and wasting my time to find out either.
She is wise enough not to allow unhealthy pride and ego, to creep into her mind from his sweet nothings.
She chooses facts over feelings.
She's wise enough to pay attention to his history and actions, instead of his sweet nothings.
She knows that if the fruit/woman that falls off of his tree is broken and damaged, then it's just a matter of time before she will be also.
She doesn't let unhealthy ego and pride trick her into thinking she can handle him just because she wants, what she wants.
So, she keeps her legs closed because she knows how powerful the act of sex is and a short time in bed with him is not worth years of her heart feeling broken and her time and energy being wasted, so she chooses to go without, to protect her sanity and peace.
She doesn't wait around to find out if she's right either and she most definitely doesn't try to figure out the (why) he does; what he does, so she can fix and keep him because she's not his mama, psychologist, or Jesus!
The healthy-minded woman loves her peace, sanity, body, heart, and future more than just being able to say (I got a man).
She doesn't play power games with spirits!
She doesn't like to play gas-lighting games either!
So, she prays for him and keeps it moving.
Yes, she's disappointed but she's wise enough to know that he's had a lot of practice and he's had a lot of good women in his life so far and she's not going to be another one that he chews up and spits out, when he has sucked all of the life out of her too, like a parasite.
So, she keeps it moving because she has learned the hard way, that a woman can't change a man. Women don't teach a man, only a man and Jesus can teach a man how to be a healthy-minded man and how to respectfully treat a woman, and so she stays in her lane.
So, if you have realized by now that you are dealing with unhealthy pride and ego, then you are not alone. So, have I and I still from time to time, need to talk common sense and facts to myself; so that unhealthy pride and ego won't have their way with me, and over time you will learn how to do so as well.
If you're unhealthy pride and ego did not need the words that come from the sweet nothingness, then the percentage of you getting played by the sweet nothings game drops dramatically.
He's not new to this, he saw you coming a mile away and said to himself, I got another one.
How does the Sweet Nothing’s Game creep in and take over your mind, common sense, and intuition?
There was something in you that needed to hear the lies.
There was something in you that needed to believe the lies.
There was something in you that was broken.